There’s No Place like HOME
Every time someone comes over to my house, they always say “Wow, your house feels so homey! It’s such a healing space! I just want to hang out here all the time!” And in fact, when I come home from my travels (and I travel around a lot for my work and play), all I want to do is hang around at home.
So what makes something feel like home? Why would we want to make a ‘home’ in some places and not in others? And what is it about a home feeling that is so comforting?
Here’s some of the things that I found. Home is:
- A place where we can relax and be ourselves
- A place to eat good food
- A place to rest and rejuvenate
- A place we feel nurtured
- A place to reconnect
In many of my healing and life guidance sessions many people ask me “What are some things that I can do to make a place feel like home, even if the physical environment isn’t that homey or I’m in a hotel or a guest in someone else’s space?” Here are some of my suggestions:
- See things you love– Putting something that you love or that you find very beautiful where you can see it easily, does wonders for creating a feeling of being at ease and comfortable. This can be a photograph of a loved one, a trinket, a stone, a musical instrument or some small that you enjoy.
- Use the kitchen (if you have one) -This is an issue particularly for city dwellers, who can easily opt out of cooking when feeling overwhelmed. Even if you’re not a super chef, the kitchen is the heart of the house and will create a warmer feeling in the house the more it’s used. Even just heating up some water for a cup of tea will support that nurturing feeling. If you aren’t so comfortable in the kitchen and would like to be, stay tuned for my new High Vibe cooking series.
- Have at least one plant in the house (a few will make it feel even homier!)- This may be difficult when you’re traveling, but something alive and green makes a wonderful contribution to a home feel. For those of you who have a tendency to kill plants when left in your care, there are a few plants that are practically indestructible. Here are a few to start with: Philodendron (Philodendron gloriosum), Dwarf Crown of Thorns ‘Splendens’ (Euphorbia milii), Lipstick Plant (Aeschynanthus radicans).
- Take off your shoes – This doesn’t have to be a house rule, but having shoes on gives you the feeling of being ‘out on the street’ and taking them off usually gives one the sense of relaxing and taking it easy. If you live in a cooler place or in winter months, you can get a pair of slippers to walk around the house. I prefer people not to wear shoes in my house, so I keep a couple of extra pairs of slippers for guests to wear when they come over to keep their feet warm.
- Light a candle – A few years ago, my boyfriend and I went on a weekend trip to fancy hotel in upstate New York. The grounds were beautiful but when we got to the room, we couldn’t believe how un-friendly and depressing it felt. We searched around to try to find another place to stay, but it was Columbus Day weekend and nothing was available. So we went to town and bought a couple of nice candles, a sarong for the wall and some incense. As soon and we lit one of the candles and set the intention to ‘cheer up’ the space, the mood changed instantly!
So I put it to you: Can you use any of these suggestions for your home or temporary living space to make them feel more cozy, warm or nurturing?
This video for the song You’re My Home from my Vibration Project album, was filmed in my home in Mill Valley, California which is largely what inspired my posts about feeling at home. Enjoy!